Have you ever wondered what goes on in your lover’s head when he thinks about sex? Every single one of us has various sexual fantasies that we draw on to heighten arousal and increase sexual pleasure.

The great thing about sexual fantasies is that they’re not restricted by ‘normal’ sexual conventions, reality or even practicality. Therefore, our imaginations are given free reign. Unsurprisingly, the range of sexual fantasies is vast. However, there are common themes that exist in many male sexual fantasies and here are just a few of the most popular:

Oral Sex

One of the most common fantasies among both men and women is oral sex. An incredibly intimate experience, it is little wonder that its such a popular fantasy. Of course, with oral sex there is also the sense of submission by the person giving oral stimulation, which can be incredibly exciting for the person receiving it.

Anal Sex

An incredibly popular fantasy among men is anal sex. This is something that many women don’t quite understand. However, I suspect it has a lot to do with domination and, consequently, the submission of his lover, which can be a heady mix for most men. In addition, of course, there is something incredibly raw and primal about anal sex. It’s sex for its own sake, as there is no possibility of pregnancy. However, I feel compelled to say that this positive view of anal sex is not shared by a large number of women. If you don’t feel comfortable with anal sex, don’t feel pressured, simply because you think it’s a fantasy of his.

Sex With a Stranger

Men tend to crave sexual variety, whether this is in the way they experience sex or the number of people they have sex with. Consequently, a popular male fantasy is having sex with an anonymous woman, especially if she happens to be the one to make the first more or all the moves! I think we girls can relate to the appeal of being irresistible to a perfect stranger. However, it’s worth bearing in mind that, for most men, this is simply a fantasy and not something they would necessarily want to experience in real life.

Group Sex/Sex in Public

Linked to this craving for variety and, of course, a man’s desire to feel and appear virile, comes the fantasy of engaging in sex with more than one woman. The good old-fashioned threesome (him and two women) is the most popular male fantasy combo. However, there are men who fantasize about a threesome with another man, foursomes and various other pick ‘n’ mix possibilities. As with the ‘sex with a stranger’ fantasy, this is one that relatively few men have ever experienced, and a large number realize that the reality may not live up to expectation. Therefore, for many men, it is quite simply a pleasant thought.

There are, of course, numerous other male sexual fantasies and no two men’s sexual imagination will take them to exactly the same place. If you’d like to find out more about your lover’s sexual fantasies, why not ask him?