Being cheated on must be one of the major contributors to poor relationships. Of course we, as human beings, deep down hope that it will never happen to us. When you look at your partner you never imagine that they could do that to you- hurt you in the worst way as a lover. When you first learn that your girlfriend has cheated or is cheating on you, you start feeling confusing emotions. What you feel for them will make it hard for you to come up with a wise decision about the next step. The question you ask yourself at this mystifying moment is; my girlfriend has cheated on me, what do I do now?
Do not make any rash decisions.
During this time, you are experiencing a lot of emotions. It could be anger, sadness or even worse hate towards your partner. All these emotions may cloud your judgment. Wait until your feelings to calm down. By acting out of anger and confusion, you will only make matters worse and also you may do something that you will come to regret. After all, two wrongs never make a right.
Come face to face with your girlfriend.
After you have calmed your emotions, you are in a better place to think rationally and then you may want to confront your girlfriend. This will not be easy, but it is the only way to start your healing process. Do not settle the matter via text or a phone call; make sure to have a face to face conversation. This will help you to read their body language and facial expressions. Before the confrontation, make sure that you have facts with you about the cheating. Try to go to the root of the problem or what might have led to the cheating. Also, attempt to establish if your cheating partner is truly repentant about their actions. If they get angry or defensive about their actions, then maybe they aren’t that sorry. This is a sign that you should walk away and never look back. If her actions, however, are legitimate, then this may help you as a couple to overcome your differences and move forward together.
Consider some time-out.
Time-out will give you time to process the information that your girlfriend has disclosed to you. Take this opportunity to get advice from someone you trust. It could be a family member, a friend or even a relationship counselor. Coming to a decision of whether you want to salvage the relationship or do away with it is very crucial. If you decide to patch things up with your partner, let them understand that it will take some time to heal and go back to what you used to be, if ever you will. Before you come to a final decision, weigh the pros and cons of whether you should go back to her. If the strengths outweigh the weakness, then you have your answer. But whatever decision you make, put your needs before anything else.
Relationships are not perfect, and neither are people. Accepting that your girlfriend cheated may be your first step towards healing. Whether you decide to end things or stay together, just know that their actions do not dictate who you are as a person.